Dating online is not something Australian Circuit Court Judge Terry McGuire would encourage for anyone who wants to start and pursue having a family. The judge was faced with a custody battle over a baby boy who has an Australian father and Japanese mother. The infant was still three months old when the case was filed. With the jurisdiction of Judge Terry McGuire, the Japanese mother was granted the custody of their son, now 10 months old.
According to the judge, the couple lacks “any tolerance or understanding of the other.” He also believes that the “parents were inherently and grossly underprepared for the inevitable difficulties in establishing and maintaining their own relationship and almost certainly physically, culturally and emotionally without the tools to successfully parent their child.” Judge McGuire found the ex-couple’s accusations against one another “uncorroborated,” but he emphasized what to expect with a marriage that began through online dating. “This matter offers a sad statement and warning as to the potential pitfalls of internet relationships, in particular, those that produce children at an early stage.”
The child’s parents began dating online in 2011, and got engaged in March of the same year during the 2-week holiday the father spent in Japan. The son was born in 2012 after the couple got married in Australia. However, the relationship did not flourish according to either’s anticipation, mainly because of culture clash. Their marriage, two weeks after the birth of their son, began to face marital problems said to be initiated by the father.
The 33-year old Australian father accused his former wife, 5 years his senior, of forcing him to eat a rice ball that was already thrown in a garbage bin. He also claimed that she tried to stab him twice and hit him while he was driving. “She would snap and go into a kamikaze-like mindset,” the man said during a court hearing. The woman, on the other hand, accused her former husband of physical abuse while she was still pregnant. She also said that she was promised a “good life together” in Australia, but the man was jobless. She even charged him of forcing her to pay bills with her savings. “With the benefit of hindsight, this was not a relationship that is a good advertisement for romance by technology,” described Judge McGuire.